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 There I was, a mental wreck in sack and ashes.  Had to tug hard to pull up my big girls panties. As for that “stiff upper lip?” It took two cups of coffee to say, “Oh well, better luck next time.”

Fellow writers will commiserate. You’ve written that mind-blowingly, outstanding, incredible article and it’s rejected. Don’t they get it? Don’t they feel the pathos, sense the humor, and anticipate the letters they are going to get, praising this new contributor?

No, they don’t. Bottom line, you’re just not good enough. Didn’t make the team, or the cut or whatever it takes. And it hurts. It really hurts. Writers, bloggers, scribblers, we all have fragile egos and a rejection will have some of us dive into a cave to lick our wounds. But we’re also gluttons for punishment. We try again, and again. In the meantime it’s 5.00 am, you’re on that second cup of coffee penning your next masterpiece while your dog(s) sleep next to you. Dog. God spelt backwards. Always there, always faithful, always happy to listen.

But now, having faced up to the fact that “they” didn’t get my genius, my mind drifted back to that single word, rejection. So I took a look at some synonyms which conjure up that sense of having the rug pulled out from under you.

Refusal, declining, turning down, dismissal, repudiation, rebuff, spurning, abandonment, desertion, exclusion, renunciation and on the lighter side, cold shoulder, kick in the teeth, no dice, no go, no way, nothing doing, slap in the face, thumbs down (absolutely, like a gladiator of old I’ve just been given the death sentence.” Kill her; kill her she’s a terrible writer.”)

If all of this lovely stuff means you are also horribly disappointed, here we go again. Defeat, disaster, failure, mistake, obstacle, setback, calamity, discouragement, downer, downfall, misfortune, mishap, bitter pill ehhhh….Having established that I was weighed down by most if not all of the above, I realized I needed help to snap out of my “oh poor me” moment. Thus –

Hi ho, hi ho as off to The Good Book I go. (went…) and took the whole thing onto a different plateau and into the realm of what really matters.

John 16:33 “In the world you will have tribulation but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”

Psalm 30:11 “You’ve turned my mourning into dancing; you’ve put off my sackcloth and clothed me with gladness.”

2 Cor. 1:4 “…who comforts us in all of our tribulations.”

2 Cor. 4:8 “We are hard-pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed but not in despair.

Phil. 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

And then, and then, there’s 2 Cor. 12: 9

Many years ago I experienced loss of the kind that could’ve destroyed me. It could’ve become a “Why me, Lord” moment. Instead, from nowhere came the phrase –

“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

At the time I didn’t even know where it appeared in the Bible but that refrain was relentless in my mind. When I woke up, driving to work, when memories crowded in, every waking hour, as I lay in bed at night, when I finally stood at that open grave, always, always the refrain,

“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”


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